You might be thinking this is a silly topic for a post. You might be thinking that, of course, I hate bullying, doesn’t every one? No, I don’t think so. For a start there are those that bully, obviously it doesn’t bother them that they are being cruel to someone. Then there are those who stand by and let it happen. It might bother them, but if they don’t do something to try to stop it, then they don’t hate it like I do.
I hate it so much that as a child I was the one who said something, even at risk to myself (I got into a few scraps because of it too.) I didn’t care if I got called a tell-tale or had to take the brunt of the bully’s anger. I simply couldn’t, and still can’t, bear to see people hurt others.
Note that I use the word hate here for emphasis only. It’s a powerful word for a powerful feeling, but actually, I don’t hate anymore. These days, it, like all violence and cruelty just makes me sad.
Bullying, whether verbal or physical, is just another name for torture. I can’t watch torture on TV or read about it without feeling physically ill, and I can’t understand why some people consider it entertainment both in the media and in real life, yet apparently, many people do.
Torture is when a person intentionally hurts another which in my opinion, is one of the worst traits a human being can have. Karmically speaking, the future of cruel people doesn’t look good. Cruelty is not an attractive trait and even if you don’t subscribe to a religion that believes that cruel people go to hell, let’s face it, who wants to live in a mind that’s full of hate and relishes hurting others. A mind full of negative emotions is a painful place to be. Yep, I hate bullying, but I feel a lot of compassion for the bully as well as the bullied. Bullies are sick, if they were healthy, they wouldn’t do it.
When I’m at the high school that I work at occasionally, I’m very diligent about jumping on any slight hint of bullying. I’m good at giving lectures to kids who don’t think they’re bullying because as far as they’re concerned they’re just having a laugh.
Maybe you think it’s funny, but it doesn’t look like he does. Guess what? That makes you a bully.
I’ve kept whole classes in to give them an impassioned lecture on how being cruel to others is a despicable thing to do. They usually leave the room looking pretty subdued. I also offer handy little methods to kids to help them handle the bullying. Sometimes, they’re in the form of analogies, one of which is here, but they always have to do with looking at the situation in an empowering way. My message is that you can do something about it for yourself, and now I’ve put this message into a magical realism novella for teens which is coming out in early June. I hope I sell lots of these books, not to get rich (though it would be nice not to have to sell our house), but to empower kids suffering at the hand of bullying in all its forms and on all sides of the issue.
How do you feel about bullying? What do you do when you come across someone being bullied?